“Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius. And it’s better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.”
I can’t sit here and say that I’m a huge Patriots fan. I can’t sit here and say that I’m a huge football fan (or sports fan in general). I can’t even sit here and say that I was planning on watching the Super Bowl at all. But I can sit here and say that the halftime show just so happened to be on at work. I can sit here and say that my eyes were absolutely glued to the screen as Lady Gaga started her halftime performance.
I can sit here and say that my coworkers and I were literally in awe as she strutted her beautiful, talented, powerful self around that stage. I can sit here and say that I was literally amazed at the immense talent of this woman and her ability to dance so impeccably AND sing her heart out at the same time (without running out of breath, mind you!) I can sit here and say that I thought it was one of the most powerful performances I have ever seen (male or female) and the only word I can think to describe it was EPIC.
But I, unfortunately, can also sit here and say that when I logged onto Facebook after the show, the first post I saw was “Lady Gaga could sure use a body wrap to tone, tighten, and firm!”
Do I even need to mention that this post was from a man? A well-respected father? A father to a DAUGHTER? I saw this post and my heart pounded. My jaw dropped. I was angry. And I am still am.
That post wasn’t the only one I saw. By the looks of my social media feeds, it seems as though society doesn’t care one bit that Lady Gaga put on a truly epic, mind-blowing performance. Y’all, since when did it become okay to completely disregard one’s talent in order to pave way for discussions entirely focusing on her body? The mere fact that there are people out there, fathers of daughters, who have the nerve to call Lady Gaga out for having a “gut,” for needing to “tighten” and “tone” her already beautiful body is actually disturbing.
It makes me so sad that there are people out there who still value a woman based off her body. There is no such thing as the “perfect body.” There never will BE such a thing, and insinuating that people need a “toning wrap” to look better only contributes to the lie that women need to be skinnier, tighter, and toner in order to be deemed worthy in a man’s eyes.
There are little girls, daughters of the fathers who have made these remarks, who look up to pop icons like Lady Gaga. Should they also be buying into the lie that they need to have rock hard abs and a flat stomach to be considered “perfect”? Because if the legendary Lady Gaga can’t even avoid this judgement, who the heck can?
Well, you know what. We can and we will survive this judgement. There will always be haters who will choose judgment over love and acceptance, and there’s unfortunately nothing we can do about that. But whether or not we, as strong, independent, beautiful women, choose to listen to these haters is entirely our choice. I choose not to. I will NOT buy into society’s misconception that I need to be skinnier, fitter, toner to be more valuable.
Because I choose to believe that imperfection is beauty.